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Would I find love and be loved? This is the most common question my father Master Tin Sun and I have been asked by women in our combined nearly 100 years experience as Feng Shui and Chinese Life Reading masters. In our affluent and free society the downside has been that many people are set adrift in family units of one. Affluence makes this possible, but people who are not by nature contemplatives become more self absorbed and distract themselves with entertainment and the fulfilling of their material desires. With this kind of social isolation it becomes more difficult to connect, as there is no ‘natural’ progression – especially for people in their 30s 40s and beyond. The ‘constructed’ processes, like internet dating, can also create fear based on the lack of real connection with virtual (actual) strangers. As a defense mechanism, a lot of people chose to protect their hearts by putting their guards up.
My most basic suggestion is based on universal laws of attraction: Love attracts love. Romantic or couple love isn’t the only kind. Even if one doesn’t have a life partner, or even family, one’s life can be as imbued with love to the maximum as one wishes. First: get out of the house. Interact. Give. Volunteer for those less fortunate – a true way to open one’s heart center. At the same time, do contemplate. In quiet time (with TV, computer and iPhone off!) one can reconnect with one’s true purpose in this lifetime. Did you once want to play piano but give it up? Wanted to be a doctor but became a lawyer instead? It is in the NOW that there is power in pursuing one’s real dreams – even if in a small way – to reconnect with the joy and love of life that is the foundation of all love. It is your own job to fulfill your spirit. Don’t expect someone else to finish this puzzle and rescue you. We each can be the rescuers of our own souls. The healthier and better you are, the healthier the persons, circumstances and relationships you attract.
There are indications of one’s ability to find lasting love from Feng Shui Chinese Life Reading that may help:
No matter which of the above category you belong to, there is a rare opportunity coming up this Valentine’s Day which is also the Lunar New Year that can help put the energy out there of fulfillment in love:
People who observe Lunar New Year are more sensitive to metaphysical significance in setting intention during the first day of the New Year because it is believed that it sets the momentum to the rest of the year. Being that Feb. 14, 2010 is not only Valentine’s Day, it is also the Lunar First in the Year of the Tiger which though it is a Metal Element year, Tiger is a Wood Element sign with Yang rising Chi. This means using that day wisely to set intention is like planting the seed in the most favorable time early on in a planting season.
If love is what you seek, follow this routine that had proven to have favorable result. On Feb. 13, 2010, start tuning in to your soul and connectivity to the divine energy by being more spiritual and calm. You could do so by taking a Energy Cleansing Bath mentioned in my earlier blog or other routine that can clear your core energy. Using this time to reflect, to feel your soul can provide the clarity that you don’t have year around when you are busy with responsibilities or social functions. Read a story or watch a movie that celebrates the power of love. Feeling hopeful is step one in inviting the intended energy to connect with you during the rest of the year. Listening to gentle music and taking it easy the rest of the evening is a way of healing, recharging so that you could radiate the energy your mind sets out to do.
Head to bed with a new set of pajamas and if love is one of your biggest wish, then, wearing pajamas consisting of pink which is the Fire Element with feminine energy would be helpful. This also reminds you of the feminine qualities that are more attractive than the aggressive, demanding, serious mode most women nowadays operate under most of the time in this demanding world. Woman is Yin as man is Yan, if our Yin and Yang energy is in balance, it sets the tone for both to connect.
Wake up on New Year’s Day with thoughts of those people, pets, locations or events that remind you of the sweetness in life. Count your blessings and be grateful as you do your morning prayer so that you can secure your connection with the divine energy that helps to bring forth blessings you set out to earn. Spend the rest of the day loving and pampering yourself by taking it easy and doing activities you enjoy. Reduce skepticism! Romance usually happens to those that let their guards down. Try to remember your temperament and the energy you radiate that day and duplicate that sweetness in how you feel about life. This would be the seed that enables you to grow the fruit intended.
Your mind setting the intention is the will that leads you to the reality. Hopefully by this time next year, you would be sharing the story of this experiment with the companion in your life. Good Luck!
The people you rub elbows with can hurt or help your own energy and luck. So in general it is wiser to associate with people that are positive and constructive to grow with. This is especially the case during the holiday season when you consider whom to invite into your home during Chanukah, Christmas and New Year, and the Chinese (Lunar) New Year coming up soon after that.
Most people are still trying to recover from the dramatic economic times in the past two years, so in the upcoming New Year period be more conscious of creating upbeat energy in your home to define the theme and momentum properly right from the start. This means people who like to drill on the past unpleasant situations and talk about it still should be avoided. Having conversations full of negative emotions in your home program that negativity into your space. If you must interact with those people for social diplomacy during the holiday cycle, do so in a restaurant so that the energy does not linger in your precious home.
By the same token, people who are in the midst of serious illness personally or within the family or just had a death in the family, be supportive in a public place or their place, or have those phone conversations in the west direction of your home while talking facing out the window. West direction with strong sun light and solar energy in the late afternoon can clear away old energy. It would be best that if the window is open a bit or more if weather permits so that the negative energy is alleviated outside. If there is no west facing for such a use, south or east could be considered. In this case, sage the space or use instruments like wind chime, bell or drum to clear the negative vibration. This can be done by ringing bell or striking drum as you walk around the space in a clockwise motion and guiding each round out the window with the actual motion or mental intention.
If you are the unfortunate person with serious illnesses or death happening in your immediate circle, you should also follow the recommendations above when taking those calls from caring friends and relatives because that is healthier for you and your love ones living with you. Clearing the energy in your space regularly with sage and/or sound and solar energy is important – and clearing your personal energy by taking a mineral bath and making sure that at least once every part of you is submerged in the water.
Rhythm, momentum is important for people who want to nurture or grow positive energy in their lives, so, on New Year’s day, take it easy and try to make it as enjoyable as possible. Waking up naturally when your body feels like it rested enough, doing your morning routine without rushing to things is a good way to start. Also, doing a prayer and exercise is a way to set the order of priority that can be your momentum in the remainder of the year. If you are going to meet anyone, make sure that they are people who are in a good enough cycle that can be inspiring and fun to be with. Sharing a laugh or two is always good, especially in the beginning of a new cycle.
To further boost positive and wealth energy, bring in some Wood Element on New Year’s Day by putting flowers in the east direction of your home or living room. If you live in a place that you can’t get flower on that day, then, cut a few branches of leaves in place of flowers. If neither of this can be done, purchase the flower ahead of time and store it well, then, on New Year morning, arrange them accordingly. To lift the spirit and energy the maximum way possible, avoid white, cream or blue color flowers. You could use multi-color arrangement or other vibrant colors like pink, yellow, purple or red.
Bottom line, make your New Year’s Day, light, fresh, happy, stress free and calm because you deserve it!