Would I find love and be loved? This is the most common question my father Master Tin Sun and I have been asked by women in our combined nearly 100 years experience as Feng Shui and Chinese Life Reading masters. In our affluent and free society the downside has been that many people are set adrift in family units of one. Affluence makes this possible, but people who are not by nature contemplatives become more self absorbed and distract themselves with entertainment and the fulfilling of their material desires. With this kind of social isolation it becomes more difficult to connect, as there is no ‘natural’ progression – especially for people in their 30s 40s and beyond. The ‘constructed’ processes, like internet dating, can also create fear based on the lack of real connection with virtual (actual) strangers. As a defense mechanism, a lot of people chose to protect their hearts by putting their guards up.
My most basic suggestion is based on universal laws of attraction: Love attracts love. Romantic or couple love isn’t the only kind. Even if one doesn’t have a life partner, or even family, one’s life can be as imbued with love to the maximum as one wishes. First: get out of the house. Interact. Give. Volunteer for those less fortunate – a true way to open one’s heart center. At the same time, do contemplate. In quiet time (with TV, computer and iPhone off!) one can reconnect with one’s true purpose in this lifetime. Did you once want to play piano but give it up? Wanted to be a doctor but became a lawyer instead? It is in the NOW that there is power in pursuing one’s real dreams – even if in a small way – to reconnect with the joy and love of life that is the foundation of all love. It is your own job to fulfill your spirit. Don’t expect someone else to finish this puzzle and rescue you. We each can be the rescuers of our own souls. The healthier and better you are, the healthier the persons, circumstances and relationships you attract.
There are indications of one’s ability to find lasting love from Feng Shui Chinese Life Reading that may help:
- Usually, those who could enjoy sweetness from relationships have palms that are developed, cushiony and soft to hold. Woman who would have companionship and comfort also rarely have a palm that is very bony and skinny. Also, the Love line near the base of the fingers running horizontally from the pinky inward usually is quite straight forward without much broken, overlapping and complicated pattern attached to this line.
- Women who have eyes that are very watery or have excessive Yin energy that are seductive like Marilyn Monroe, sleepy looking, are called in Chinese Face Reading “Cherry Blossom Eyes.” This type of eye feature is associated with drawing people for lustful satisfaction, being exploited and dumped. If you notice your eyes are like this you can develop a more alert expression – and also beware of the energy you’re projecting – become conscious of it and change it.
- Women who are loved rarely have a very pointy chin or slimmed jaw and these are the areas that reflect the companionship in their Golden Age. Loneness is associated with narrow face and squeezed jaw.
No matter which of the above category you belong to, there is a rare opportunity coming up this Valentine’s Day which is also the Lunar New Year that can help put the energy out there of fulfillment in love:
People who observe Lunar New Year are more sensitive to metaphysical significance in setting intention during the first day of the New Year because it is believed that it sets the momentum to the rest of the year. Being that Feb. 14, 2010 is not only Valentine’s Day, it is also the Lunar First in the Year of the Tiger which though it is a Metal Element year, Tiger is a Wood Element sign with Yang rising Chi. This means using that day wisely to set intention is like planting the seed in the most favorable time early on in a planting season.
If love is what you seek, follow this routine that had proven to have favorable result. On Feb. 13, 2010, start tuning in to your soul and connectivity to the divine energy by being more spiritual and calm. You could do so by taking a Energy Cleansing Bath mentioned in my earlier blog or other routine that can clear your core energy. Using this time to reflect, to feel your soul can provide the clarity that you don’t have year around when you are busy with responsibilities or social functions. Read a story or watch a movie that celebrates the power of love. Feeling hopeful is step one in inviting the intended energy to connect with you during the rest of the year. Listening to gentle music and taking it easy the rest of the evening is a way of healing, recharging so that you could radiate the energy your mind sets out to do.
Head to bed with a new set of pajamas and if love is one of your biggest wish, then, wearing pajamas consisting of pink which is the Fire Element with feminine energy would be helpful. This also reminds you of the feminine qualities that are more attractive than the aggressive, demanding, serious mode most women nowadays operate under most of the time in this demanding world. Woman is Yin as man is Yan, if our Yin and Yang energy is in balance, it sets the tone for both to connect.
Wake up on New Year’s Day with thoughts of those people, pets, locations or events that remind you of the sweetness in life. Count your blessings and be grateful as you do your morning prayer so that you can secure your connection with the divine energy that helps to bring forth blessings you set out to earn. Spend the rest of the day loving and pampering yourself by taking it easy and doing activities you enjoy. Reduce skepticism! Romance usually happens to those that let their guards down. Try to remember your temperament and the energy you radiate that day and duplicate that sweetness in how you feel about life. This would be the seed that enables you to grow the fruit intended.
Your mind setting the intention is the will that leads you to the reality. Hopefully by this time next year, you would be sharing the story of this experiment with the companion in your life. Good Luck!